Why Love Alone Isn’t Enough to Make a Marriage Last

Introduction

We grow up hearing that “all you need is love.” And while love is the heart of any strong relationship, it’s not the whole story.

Marriage is more than a feeling, it’s a partnership, a commitment, and a daily choice. Without the right tools, even the strongest love can be tested.

Love is the foundation, but you still need walls, a roof, and a plan for keeping the house standing.

The Myth of “Love Will Be Enough”

Movies and novels often skip over the everyday realities of marriage:

• Balancing different communication styles

• Navigating finances and shared responsibilities

• Managing stress and external pressures

  
  

Love gets you started. Skills, understanding, and shared vision keep you going.

What Lasting Marriages Are Built On

1. Healthy Communication – Listening to understand, not just to respond.

2. Conflict Resolution – Disagreeing without damaging the relationship.

3. Shared Values – Agreeing on the “big things” like family, money, and priorities.

4. Adaptability – Growing together through life changes.

Why Pre-Marital Coaching Is a Game-Changer

Pre-marital coaching isn’t about fixing something broken, it’s about preventing cracks from forming. Using the SYMBIS Assessment, I help couples:

• Identify strengths and growth areas

• Explore unspoken expectations

• Build communication and problem-solving skills

• Create a shared vision for their marriage

A Real-Life Example (Anonymous)

One couple I worked with realised during coaching that their financial expectations were worlds apart. One wanted joint accounts, the other preferred full independence. Discussing this before the wedding helped them create a hybrid system that felt fair and reduced future conflict.

If you want your love to last a lifetime, it’s worth preparing for the journey ahead.

Book your pre-marital coaching consultation and start building your marriage with intention.