The 7 Conversations Every Couple Should Have Before Saying “I Do”

Introduction

Marriage is a beautiful commitment but it’s also a merging of two lives, values, and histories. Without open conversations beforehand, couples often stumble into misunderstandings that could have been avoided.

The best wedding gift you can give each other is clarity and connection before you say ‘I do.’

The 7 Essential Conversations

1. Finances

• How will you handle money?

• Will you combine accounts, keep them separate, or both?

• What’s your approach to budgeting and debt?

2. Family & In-Laws

• How involved will extended family be?

• How will you spend holidays and handle traditions?

3. Career Goals

• Where do you see yourselves in 5–10 years?

• How will career changes impact your relationship?

4. Children

• Do you want children? If so, when?

• How will you divide parenting responsibilities?

5. Conflict Resolution

• How do you each handle disagreements?

• What’s your process for finding resolution?

6. Roles & Responsibilities

• Who will take care of what at home?

• How will you share emotional labour?

7. Lifestyle & Values

• What are your non-negotiables?

• What kind of life do you want to create together?

How Coaching Makes These Conversations Easier

Some topics can feel awkward or overwhelming. In pre-marital coaching, I provide a safe, neutral space to explore them. Using the SYMBIS Assessment, we uncover your shared strengths and highlight areas for growth before they cause tension.

Start your marriage with confidence, clarity, and connection.

Book your pre-marital coaching session today.